Thursday, January 29, 2009

Maintaining Independence in Your Golden Years

Most of us have some semblance of a plan in place for retirement. We all know that we should save as much as we can, preferably by investing in our employers' retirement plans so that we'll have a nice nest egg to sustain us later in life. Planning for your later years should be more comprehensive than simply saving your money. You should ask yourself: How will I be able to take care of myself - independently - once my body starts to break down?

It's a grim prospect, but it is one we all must face (if we're lucky enough to live that long). Assuming that you make it to age 70 or 80, what do you think things will be like for you? What kinds of things will you want to do with your time? If you like to travel and have a companion, you may find that these years are when you appreciate traveling the most. For ordinary day-to-day living, however, you'll want to make sure that you can take care of most things by yourself. Things like bathing, moving around the house, preparing meals, and keeping things tidy should be things you can do for yourself. I know it isn't pleasant, but you should realize and plan for what happens as your body reaches old age. You'll probably have arthritis to deal with, which is hard for anyone. Fortunately, there are mobility products and other solutions available that can keep you independent.

If you live long enough, at some point you will probably require long-term care. If you've made it that far, congratulations; you've earned the right to have people waiting on you. On the other hand, most people will prefer to remain independent for as long as possible before that day. In order to do that, you will need to make sure your home is as accident-proof as possible. I have a few pointers for that.

Let's start in the bathroom. If your loved ones are concerned about you falling in the shower, ease their minds by buying a floor mat and installing a grab bar. If your physical condition is such that you should only take baths, then don't risk a shower. You could even buy a bath lift that lowers you into the bath and raises you back up when you're done. Make sure there are grab bars and dry floor mats in other places in the bathroom also, like near the sink.

In other areas of the house, like the living room and bedroom, you may find it prudent to use a walker to get around. Or, if you prefer, there are electric scooters or power wheelchairs designed for indoor use. There are many, many ways for you to make your home life more convenient and safe as you get along in years, which will keep you independent and taking care of yourself.

Randy McIntire is a technical writer specializing in mobility devices for seniors and the disabled. Randy's particular area of expertise is stair lifts. For more information about stair lifts, visit US Medical Supplies.

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When Pets Outlive Their Owners

When Walter died at the age of 97 there was no one left in his immediate family except Millie.

Millie was a more-or-less cocker spaniel of questionable heritage. Her legs were too short for her body, and there was an interesting ruff around her neck that suggested a chow somewhere on the family tree. Millie was a happy little love-any-burglar-to-death gal who gave Walter a reason to get up in the morning, and lots of little jobs to keep him on schedule throughout the day.

While Walter wasn't rich by any means, he was rich in the love he and Millie shared. His only real worry as he got older was about Millie, who was a far sight younger than he was. "I want you to make sure that Millie has a home when I go," was his emphatic instruction the day we met.

It took some doing, but we made it happen. The fact that Walter was prepared to do what needed to be done to make it happen is what gives this story its happy ending.

Walter was able to remain active in his church because someone came to give him a ride every Sunday. After we brainstormed a bit, Walter decided to approach this much younger woman (age 75 or thereabouts) about adopting Millie "when the time comes." She knew Millie, and they got along.

Now, this woman, while willing, was living on a fixed and fairly low budget. Her only concern was that she couldn't afford the food and veterinary care Millie would need. The loving part she could handle.

So we set up a meeting with Walter's attorney. This attorney drew up an addendum to Walter's will, setting aside a sum of money in a special trust to be used for Millie's care as long as she lived. Any money remaining in the trust when Millie died was designated to a rescue organization, to be used to help other Millies.

The day Walter passed away and I got the call, I simply had to call Millie's new mother, and we made arrangements for Millie to go to her new home. While Millie obviously mourned Walter, she made a good adjustment in time, and she is now thriving. I'm sure Walter is looking down and watching with a smile, because everything turned out the way he wanted.

Millie and Walter's story isn't typical. How many times, when an owner dies or moves to long term care, do beloved pets end up in shelters, with three days to be adopted before they are euthanized? Or even worse, end up on the street? I don't know, but I do know that it's far too many.

We make arrangements for our children to have care if something happens to us. We do the recommended planning for our own care, should that be needed. We prepare wills and trusts to bequeath our stuff. We're rarely as prepared as Walter was to take care of our pets, who depend on us just as much as our children.

If you know older persons with pets, ask if they have made any pet lifecare arrangements you should know about. If the answer is, "Yes," offer to help get their instructions written down, so there is no confusion about what will happen to the pet should the worst happen. If you know that there will be funds available to help subsidize the cost of caring for an older animal, offer to help your senior get any necessary legal advice to set up lifetime pet care arrangements. Your senior will probably be relieved, and you may well save the life of a treasured pet who depends on us.

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Monday, January 26, 2009

Throw-Away Seniors

So, what's it worth to keep an elderly family member around? They can't do much to help with the housework. They're always in the way. They can't hear you too well, when you try to say something to them. They get all squinty-eyed when they watch TV. Why should we keep them around, when it's just as easy to put them in an assisted living facility, and let them take care of them? That way you can forget them, and concentrate on living your own life.

I'm sorry to say that this is what is happening in our world today. When seniors become a burden to their adult children, they get put away and forgotten.

Wait a minute. These are the people that put a roof over our head, food in our mouths, clothes on our backs, a good education, and made sure we were shown love, as we grew up. They are the reason for us being who we are today.

Remember when your Mom said "No" when you wanted to go skating that time when you were 10, and you said you "hated her"? Or how about the time you came in late from that date (3 hours) and Dad grounded you for two weeks? Remember how you argued with him how unfair it was? I guess they should have considered putting you into a detention center, with kids your own age, because you were just too much trouble for them to bother with.

And, how about when you retire, and maybe can't get around too well by yourself anymore? Do you want to be put away by your kids, so they don't have to worry about you? Our kids are watching and learning from us. They will end up treating us the same way we treat our parents.

Mom knew about the storm rolling in when she said you couldn't go skating with you friends. Remember how your buddy got the case of frostbite on that one? But you hated her because you couldn't go.

And your Dad sat there on the couch, knowing that you weren't that experienced a driver, listening to the sirens in the distance, wondering if you were still alive. And yet, when he expressed his worry, you argued with him. Parents only have so much to use to try to straighten kids out, and grounding is one way. I'll bet you weren't late again for a while after that.

For centuries, the family unit was ruled over and governed by the eldest. Seniors were revered as a well full of knowledge and wisdom. There were no family decisions made without consulting them. But now, we seem to know it all, and don't need them anymore.

We yank them out of the comfortable home that they have lived in for years, throw them into a small apartment, where they no longer get any privacy and don't know anybody, and them we forget about them. This is the single greatest fear that seniors have today. This is why they don't tell you about something that hurts, or something that bothers them that could turn into a life-threatening situation. They are so afraid that you won't think they can handle living in their home anymore, and start making decisions for them. They are aware that they may be thrown away at any time.

Now, there are some good facilities around, and the seniors are treated well, for the most part, and there is a definite need for these places, but too many times our parents are placed there just for our convenience. This is wrong. They took care of us; now it's our turn to take care of them. They gave us love when we needed it, we should return the favor.

There are so many systems available today that help seniors maintain their independence in their own homes. There are Personal Emergency Response Systems that have a button they can wear around their neck, and can push to get help, when there is an emergency. There are even automated systems that don't require any physical input from the senior. They are designed to react automatically in an alert situation. If you haven't heard about these, just check out my Bio.

We can no longer deny our children the chance to get to know their grandparents, or deny our parents the chance to see their grandchildren grow up. They actually enjoy helping with the kids. They have an unending supply of experience that we can learn from. One of the biggest things they can teach us is patience, for our kids, and for each other. They have survived a lot in their lifetime, and are still here. They must know something.

This country and our economy are falling apart around us. There are those that think we are soon going to evolve from a democratic society to a socialist one. If we are going to save this great country, and keep our free way of life going, we need to fix it. And the best place to start is within the family. One citizen may not be able to make a huge impact on our society, but if we each start small, in our own family, the changes will be monumental. We need to start by asking our parents what they think this Country needs. They know what needs to be done; maybe we should listen to them, and not just throw them away because we feel a little inconvenienced.

About the Author:

Mark Beghtel was originally trained as an Electronic Warfare Technician in the US Navy, and has worked in the private Electronics Industry since 1983. He has dedicated his life to providing systems that help people, installing and maintaining Fire- and Security-Alarm systems, along with many different PERS Systems. He is now the Manager of Technical Services for TSI Distribution, the nationwide distributor of the QuietCare® System, which provides automatic monitoring of the Activities of Daily Living of Seniors, to help keep them in their own home, and independent as long as possible. They also offer monitored and non-monitored PERS Systems, and Mark's job is to ensure all of the systems are installed properly, through training, account setup and maintenance.
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Monday, January 19, 2009

Coronary Heart Disease In The Elderly

Coronary heart disease (CHD) is the most common cause of mortality and morbidity in the elderly. In western countries, it accounts for 80 – 85 percent of all cardiac deaths in older people.

When a person ages, his or her cardiovascular system will undergo some normal and expected changes. These can be age-associated changes in cardiac anatomy; age-associated changes in cardiovascular physiology; and age-associated changes in pharmacokinetics and pharmacodynamics.

The presentation of CHD may be altered by these changes together with other age-related changes in the kidneys, brain, and musculoskeletal systems. Ultimately, the diagnosis and hence the treatment of heart disease in elderly may become more complicated.

Various conventional risk factors for CHD among younger people such as smoking, hypertension, hyperlipidemia and diabetes mellitus remain important factors for elderly. Furthermore, age is a powerful and independent risk factor for CHD. The risk increases when men reach 55 years old and above and women reach 65 years old and above.

Females have a much lower risk of CHD compared to males, but this gender differential diminishes as age advances. For example, the event rate is 1:5 in favor of females at the age of 35, but by the age of 70, the ratio is almost 1:1.

Symptoms such as breathlessness, giddiness or palpitation are quite common for the CHD in the elderly. Sometimes, musculoskeletal problem in the elderly may prevent the patient from complaining of exercise related angina. Instead of complaining of chest pain during a heart attack, an elderly patient may develop difficulty in breathing or symptom of stroke. Silent heart attack is also common. As reported in the Cardiovascular Health Study and the Framingham Heart Study, some 40 percent of unrecognized heart attack was found in those aged between 75 and 84 years.

In the management of heart disease, some diagnostic procedures such as treadmill exercise may not be suitable because of the associated joint problems in the elderly. It is also more risky to perform coronary angiography and coronary angioplasty procedures for the elderly patients with the presence of diminished kidney function. Following a heart attack, the in-hospital mortality and risk of subsequent reinfarction or its complications are all increased in the elderly patients. The use of clot busting medication (thrombolytics) has an increased risk of cerebral hemorrhage in the very elderly. Some age-associated changes in kidney or gastrointestinal function may require reduction in the usual drug dosages when heart medications are used in older patients.

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Make an Impact on a Senior's Emotional State

Communication can easily be by far one of the most difficult parts about dealing with the elderly, deterioration. Sometimes complex sentences or questions can be confusing, so making them simpler Communication can easily be by far one of the most difficult parts about dealing with the elderly, especially when it comes to those who have suffered significant emotional trauma or mental rephrasing may make things easier for residents, or using specific words with which residents connect can be helpful. Body language and facial expressions can not only convey the point you are trying to get across, but can make an impact on a resident's emotional state.

If a resident is hard of hearing or has a similar physical communication problem, then using alternative methods for communication is in order. These could include things such as writing or other visual cues can give residents not only a sense of interpersonal connection, but some amount of mental stimulation through the act of reading and writing. Residents may enjoy talking about their past, and this can be a great way for them to work through emotional trauma they've experienced, though a resident who does not wish to talk about his or her life (especially, for example, veterans of war) should never be pushed to do so.

Sometimes it can be beneficial to have someone act as a facilitator for a conversation between residents. Certain losses in communication, such as social graces or speaking ability (a conversation between a very quiet and hard of hearing resident can be extremely difficult), can be mitigated by having an employee stand by and help communicate ideas between residents. Employees can also provide topics and points of interest for conversations between residents, as this is one of the best ways to keep residents both mentally active and socially involved.

Touch is a surprisingly effective method of communication. Some residents might gain a huge sense of comfort from a mere hand on the shoulder, a quick hug, or a congratulatory pat on the back. While some residents might not appreciate physical connections, or might even actively avoid it, it is generally very successful with those that do. In short, there are a great number of ways with which to communicate with the elderly, one must simply be creative in how one attempts to do so. Don't be afraid to try communicating in a way you haven't tried before, as a resident might respond in a way you didn't expect.

Jason Rosete

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Caring For Elderly Parents Starts Now

If you're fortunate enough to grow to a ripe old age you'll inevitably be faced with scores of life changing situations. Some are oh so subtle and others slam you squarely across the head. Growing old comes slowly almost interminably slow but when it finally arrives it ascends like a black mist descending from above.

Elderly parents arrive first at this marker set in time and through them we see ourselves in just a few years more. With extended age comes a multitude of situations that need attention and for the most part all require money and a lot of detail.

Unless you are wealthy and money is no object for concern, every family will be faced with life changing decisions concerning elderly loved ones.

My wife and I had a boulder cast our way recently that literally changed our lives. We live many hours by car from our parents and generally see them two times a year although we talk often on the phone. We are a 'close knit' family. We both have siblings who live close to our parents so periodic reports on how mom and dad were doing were the normal All four parents are all now in there eighties and still driving and living at home. They all had their share of medical problems over the years but for the most part all was well, or so we thought.

It began with subtle remarks from family members and more noticeable concerns that are associated with advanced age. Lack of concentration, forgetfulness, and mobility loss to name a few. Serious and minor medical conditions began to present themselves with many surgeries to deal with. Reality painted a clear and unambiguous statement; our parents need help and how and who is willing to provide that help.

Of course every family situation will be different but allow me to share a little about my own life crisis to emphasize the utmost importance of family planning within a family structure. I will be short not to bore you but please remember this could be you.

It happened suddenly with a Friday night phone call from my sister in law; dad is in the hospital and needs surgery, he was found lying on the floor and reportedly had been there for days. Mom didn't have the where with all to call 911 or go to a neighbor for help. Social services are now involved and they say 'Nan' needs full time attention and can no longer live by herself. The refrigerator was nearly bare and little food was found in their apartment. The situation demanded immediate resolution and decisions had to be made on the fly. The time for quiet relaxed get together among family to discuss elderly parents had escaped us and now we were faced with immediate action.

None (zero) of my wife's family living in the general area of my in-laws were willing or able to help in any substantial means. The thrust of the situation suddenly and dramatically became ours to deal with. We are not wealthy although we have a beautiful home with a lot of land and both works in a self-employed business. Taking my in-laws into our home would be life changing to say the least, my wife and I had to make this decision quickly and within hours a call was made to my sister-in-law informing her that they could live with us. What followed in the next 48 hours was harrowing and stomach wrenching not to mention nerves wrecking. Our lives were changed in ways I could not begin to describe. Family members seemed unsympathetic and were just glad to see the 'Problem' go away. My wife and I began our new life together.

We are often asked why we didn't place them in a nursing home? The time will come when my wife and I will have to make that hard decision but until that day comes the 'Right Thing to Do' is to care for parents in a loving caring environment with all the hard ship and baggage that comes with it. My in-laws have no assets and live on social security with a myriad of outstanding medical bills. We take one day at a time and trust in God to provide our needs. Fifteen months have past and life goes on with both 'Nan' and 'Pop' deteriorating slowly but still able to do limited functions.

This type of scenario is duplicated everyday across the world with family members faced with hard life changing decisions. The point of this article is to exclaim the importance of family planning for aging loved ones. Please don't put it away as a 'Well someday we'll get together' moment. As subtle as aging is it is also a stark reality and if your fortunate enough to stay healthy and out of a life taking moment in time. Don't procrastinate make that first phone call to a sibling or cousin and get the 'Ball rolling'. Plan a family get together and have a picnic, enjoy the day in the sun and then sit down all together as a loving family and candidly discuss the plan of action that will be implemented near the end of your parents life. When the day comes to implement the plan there will be no crisis, no indecision on what action to take, no arguing, only loving caring family taking care of family.

Life begins with a cry and gasp for air. Death ends with a whisper and stillness.

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Gary Kenneth Archer is a web designer, webmaster, professional woodworker and naturalist
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Help the Elderly Remain Active and Healthy - 7 Special Tips to Help a Senior Live an Active Life

If you're reading this, it's probably because you have an elderly parent or other loved one who you're worried about. You want this person to be active and healthy, but he or she just does not seem motivated to do much anymore.

WELL, YOU AREN'T ALONE. There are thousands of caring sons, daughters, caregivers, and friends who are committed to helping elderly people lead the highest quality of lives possible. I imagine you have tried a variety of things to help, but have had mixed results at best. You might even have decided that it is futile and that not much can be done. However, the important thing to remember is that YOU CAN REALLY MAKE A DIFFERENCE in helping elderly people stay active and interested in the things around them.

Here are a few things you can do to motivate an elderly person to remain active and engaged in society.

1. The #1 thing to keep in mind is that you can't force a senior to be active and to exercise. Your efforts will not succeed if the elderly person feels coerced into doing it. Therefore, patient and friendly persuasion goes much farther than confrontation.

2. Educate the elderly person about the benefits of activity and exercise. Don't assume that she knows why it is so important. Give her literature and find ways to direct your conversations toward related issues.

3. Focus your efforts on encouraging the elderly person to try things that you know or believe she has enjoyed in the past or that have a high likelihood of being interesting to her now.

4. It is often useful to break activities down into parts so that the elderly person does not feel overwhelmed. A walk to the mailbox could be a small step that leads to a walk down the street at some point.

5. Offer praise and support when the elderly person completes the activity. Acknowledgement is important to everyone and the elderly are no different. Praise can go a long way to helping a senior feel motivated to continue the activity in the future.

6. Participate with the elderly person in the activity so she does not feel ill-at-ease or that you are pitying her. If you are enjoying the activity and being with the person, make sure she knows it.

7. Encourage the elderly person to see a physician if there is any indication that medical issues are contributing to her reluctance to participate in activities. Sometimes the elderly person is not feeling well and may be reluctant to admit it.

The primary things to remember when helping an elderly loved one or friend to be active and interested in life is that it requires patience and perseverance. It is important to identify WHY they are reluctant to participate and develop your INTERVENTIONS around those issues.

Steve Watson has provided assistance to seniors and their families for over 8 years. He owns a home health agency in Tallahassee, Florida called Comfort Keepers that provides home health and companion care for seniors who want to remain in their own homes and be as independent as possible.

Steve has his PhD from the University of Georgia in Public Administration and Master in Counseling from the University of Delaware. He received his certification as a Care Manager with specialization in geriatric issues this year.

If you are interested in learning more about how to help an elderly parent or other loved one remain active and healthy, check out this blog at or his web site at where you can, among other things, subscribe to an informative newsletter.

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People with Alzheimer's Disease - Helpful Tips for Encouraging Then to Remain Active

Alzheimer's disease is a devastating condition that affects approximately 1-2% of the general population. It is one of several conditions that are called dementias, accounting for about 50% of reported cases of dementias.

While the symptoms and outcomes of Alzheimer's disease are very serious, the assumption that people with the disease can no longer function is incorrect and unfair. People in the advanced stages of Alzheimer's are certainly very limited, but many other people can still be active with a little help from family or friends.

Your ability to help a loved one or friend with Alzheimer's disease be as active as possible rests with the approach you take with her. By following these steps, you can greatly enhance your chances of success.

1. Keep it simple - break tasks such as cooking or performing personal hygiene down into specific milestones that can be followed in order. For example, telling someone with Alzheimer's to cook an omelet will be overwhelming to her and will probably not succeed while instructing the person to perform each specific task that goes into making the omelet will be easier to follow and less stressful.

2. Be calm and reassuring - people with Alzheimer's disease can be very sensitive to the feelings of others and will react negatively to irritation or impatience.

3. Familiarity and repetition - do not give up if the person does not succeed with the task or activity the first time. Repeating the task over time will often improve her ability to complete it successfully.

4. Do not argue or attempt to convince - if the person is not receptive to a task, do not push her too hard to do it. At this point, it is best to redirect her to something more familiar and safer and then try again with the original task at a later time.

5. Plan the activities - spontaneity is not a good approach to take with someone with Alzheimer's disease. Plan activities carefully and minimize interruptions and surprises.

6. Use visuals to stimulate and reinforce activities - people with Alzheimer's react positively to visual prompts. Posting signs around the home that provide instructions such as "brush teeth" or "wash face" can be very helpful. Also, a collage or scrap book of pictures can help to stimulate memories and turn into an enjoyable activity.

There are a variety of activities that people with Alzheimer's disease can enjoy. Much of it depends on the individual's interests and level of functioning, and on the approach that is taken to encourage her to participate. Remember, process is more important than the outcome when encouraging people with Alzheimer's to participate in activities. A kind, gentle, and supportive approach is usually far more successful than placing high expectations and providing negative feedback.

Steve Watson has provided assistance to seniors and their families for over 8 years. He owns a home health agency in Tallahassee, Florida called Comfort Keepers that provides home health and companion care for seniors who want to remain in their own homes and be as independent as possible.

Steve has his PhD from the University of Georgia in Public Administration and Master's in Counseling from the University of Delaware. He received his certification as a Care Manager with specialization in geriatric issues this year.

If you are interested in learning more about helping an elderly parent or other loved one remain active and healthy, check out this blog at or this web site at where you can, among other things, subscribe to an informative newsletter.

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Sunday, January 18, 2009

Helping an Elderly Parent Stay Safe - Adapting to New Responsibilities and Opportunities

"Recently I have noticed that Mom is slipping a little -- forgetting things that she used to remember easily, wearing clothes that are not clean or do not match, and needing help with her checkbook and bill payments. I want to help but the thought of parenting my parent feels uncomfortable and even a little scary to me. I don't want to aggravate Mom, but I know I have to start supervising her activities more so that she will stay safe and protected."

Although the process of children assuming parental roles with their parents has been occurring for most of human history, this fact is not very soothing to people who have to face the issue now. Acknowledging that our parents are declining and becoming more dependent on us for health and safety can be very difficult and stressful. After all, Mom and Dad were always there to care for us and support us through hard times and difficult decisions. How can it be that our "foundation" is disappearing and a role reversal is occurring before our very eyes?

Unfortunately, the transition from being a child to assuming a parental role with parents can be rocky. There are several reasons for this.

• Parents are not often willing to acknowledge that they need help, especially from children they have raised. It can be just as difficult for parents to move into child-like or dependent roles as it is for their children to become more parental with them.

• Unresolved issues and negative emotions from decades ago can often emerge due to the change in relationship from more distant or diffused where parents are more independent and children are managing their own lives to much more intimate where children must supervise the day-to-day activities of their parents.

• Knowing when and how to intervene in the lives of parents can be challenging and frustrating to their children. If children move too slowly to take more responsibility for their parents, harm may occur to their health or safety while moving too quickly can damage the confidence of their parents and encourage dependency when it may not be necessary.

• Children who live long distances from their parents may be unable to provide direct supervision. This creates feelings of guilt in children who do not believe they can do enough and also parents who think their children already have to do too much for them.

There are useful steps that children of aging parents can take to make their transition to parental responsibility more manageable and less stressful. Most senior care experts agree that doing nothing to address emerging care issues will only delay the inevitable for children and may put their parents at risk. Conversely, taking definite and measurable steps to properly identify the needs of parents and instigating appropriate actions or interventions will often help children gain more confidence in their abilities to help their parents. It will also ease anxiety in parents because they will understand what is going to be done to help them and why and reassure them that they will not lose all independence in their lives.

Steps that the children of aging parents can do to help them cope with declining physical and mental abilities and general quality of life are:

• Don't accept the notion that you are going to parent your parent. Parents have decades of experiences and knowledge and the pride of lifetime accomplishments behind them. It may be helpful to use techniques that you may have used with your children or that you know your parents used with you to redirect behavior. However, treat your parents with respect and as adults who happen to need some help.

• Help your parent focus on the things they can still do well while acknowledging the things they can no longer do without assistance. Find activities or responsibilities that your parent can do safely to maximize her independence and sense of control.

• Try to face any unresolved issues or negative emotions that may be interfering with your ability to help your parent. Talk with your parent about these issues and emotions if you can, or seek the assistance of counseling or a support group to help you manage the emotional discomfort and pain.

• Accurately assess the needs of your parent and identify interventions that address those needs with the least amount of disruption. If you are not sure how to do this, seek the help of professionals such as geriatric care managers or social workers who can diagnose problem areas and recommend appropriate actions.

• If you are unable to assist your parent due to living out of town or having other responsibilities, use the services of an appropriate home care agency that can provide help for your parent while reducing your stress level and concern. Home care agencies come in various forms, ranging from homemaker and companion care services to home health agencies that provide nursing and rehabilitation care. You can choose the service based on the level of care needed by your parent.

A good rule of thumb is to act on your intuition. If you believe your parent has declined to the point of needing extra assistance and supervision, you are probably correct. Also, remember that you are not alone in caring for your aging and declining parent and that there are resources available to help you.

Steve Watson has provided assistance to seniors and their families for over 8 years. He owns a home health agency in Tallahassee, Florida called Comfort Keepers that provides home health and companion care for seniors who want to remain in their own homes and be as independent as possible.

Steve has his PhD from the University of Georgia in Public Administration and Master's in Counseling from the University of Delaware. He received his certification as a Care Manager with specialization in geriatric issues this year.

If you are interested in learning more about how to help an elderly parent or other loved one remain active and healthy, check out this web site at where you can, among other things, subscribe to an informative newsletter.

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Saturday, January 17, 2009

How to Deal with Aging Parents

Statistics show that people are living longer and longer. The age that people live to has grown dramatically in the past 20 years. Because people are living longer there is usually greater need for assistance as we age. In the majority of households the assistance that seniors receive usually comes from their children.

In many families seniors never imagined that they might need assistance from the children. Likewise, many children of aging parents never thought that they would be assisting their parents as they age. Sometimes, this children assisting parent role reversal can lead to conflicts for the children and the parents. Because of this, many children want to know how to deal with aging parents.

There are six (6) key steps to follow on how to deal with aging parents:

1. You should prepare yourself and your family for the undertaking. Even though this is your parent, it is like including another from member of the family in a significant way. Your spouse and your children should be aware of what you plan to do. There will be less resistance or conflict if everyone knows the plan. If you can get your spouse or children to actively participate that is even better.

2. Remember that you are at a different stage in life than your parent. For most of us, development does not stop once we reach adulthood. You are not the same person you were when you were 21. Your parent is not the same person they were when they were your age.

3. Try to look at their concerns from their perspective. Respect their desire for control and regularity. None of us are comfortable with change and this is even truer with seniors. Remember that the only thing worse than change, is change that you have no control over. Be sure to make your parents feel that they still have some control over their life.

4. Try to help your parent maintain the highest level of independence for as long as possible. The level of independence you start with will depend on the unique situation of your family. Don't be afraid to include assistance and decrease the level of independence if necessary.

5. Have a management plan for the essentials like money management; bills; health plans; and any necessary equipment or modifications.

6. Most importantly, help your parent maintain as good of health as possible. No one will live forever, but there are things we can do to help maintain our health as long as possible. Studies show that this factor, more than any other, can make the greatest difference in the quality of life of your aging parent. It is this last point that most children of aging parents seem to have the most difficulty with. For assistance with how to deal with an aging parent, I recommend consulting a Health Concierge. A Health Concierge is a professional that is expert in decisions about how to deal with aging parents.

Dr. Lindsay has more than 18 years of clinical practice experience and reviews new health products and services. For more information about a Health Concierge or a Free Consultation, go to Health Virtual Assistant Concierge

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Friday, January 16, 2009

Why Should Older People Bother to be Active and to Exercise

Inactivity is a very real problem among senior citizens in the United States. The Federal Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) reports that approximately 28-34% of adults aged 65-74 and 35-44% of those aged 75 and older are considered inactive. Inactivity means that someone does not engage in any leisure-time physical activity. In addition, the CDC reports that only 31% of individuals aged 65-74 report participating in at least 20 minutes of moderate physical activity three or more days per week with this figure being even lower for those aged 75 or older.

One of the most fundamental questions that will be asked by many elderly persons when encouraged to be more active and to exercise is “why.” If you are not prepared to deal with this question, you probably will not be very successful in helping your elderly loved one stay active.

A good way to answer the “why” question is to understand the difference between chronological and functional aging. We have all seen 1964 Ford Mustangs automobiles on the road. Some are in great operating shape while others may be in varying degrees of disrepair. All of these 1964 Mustangs have the same chronological age (45 years as of 2009) but vary in functional age because of their condition. Clearly, some of these automobiles are “functioning” better than others. Well, it is the same for people. If we focus solely on someone’s chronological age, we are missing quite a bit of information about that person’s functioning ability and potential. At 45 years of age, the 1964 Mustangs on the road are not all the same, so there is hope for people too!

There are actually important physiological, psychological, and social benefits to being active that clearly makes it one of the most important factors in maintaining a high quality of life for the elderly. Exercise and activity can:

• Improve the quality of sleep, reduce arthritis pain, improve cardiovascular and pulmonary functioning, lower blood pressure, and improve flexibility.
• Enhance relaxation and reduced stress and anxiety, postpone age-related declines in central nervous system processing speed and improve reaction times, and improve mental health.
• Divert attention from problems, create and enhance friendships, and provide empowerment to want to be more involved in life.

The evidence is compelling that activity and exercise can have very positive impacts on an older person’s physical, psychological, and social well-being. However, the high incidence of inactivity among the elderly suggests that there may be a disconnect between our understanding of the benefits of activity and exercise and the utilization of this knowledge among older people. One of the most commonly cited reasons for this disconnect is the lack of education available to senior citizens about the benefits of physical activity and exercise. That is where people like you come in – becoming a conduit for passing important information and encouragement on to your elderly friends and loved ones about the benefits of “keeping active.”

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